Lending a hand or Not
When I was in labor with my last baby, the midwife invited me to reach down, grab my child and bring her to my chest. She trusted me, I had been here before, this was my fourth birth and she had sat next to me the last three deliveries, coaching and supporting. She had faith is my abilities. So I did as she instructed and gently lifted my child to my chest. Later on in the day when I looked at the birth certificate, I saw that on the line that said “delivered by” she had written MY name! I could not believe it. I looked at her in shock. She just smiled and said, you should get credit for what you did. Then I smiled too. Wow! I did it? Amazing. To me, this act of generosity and empowerment is what being a great mentor is all about.A mentor is a person or friend who helps to guides a less experienced person by sharing, shedding light and support. A great mentor understands that their role is to be the guide on the side. They are there to help build trust in the relationship but more importantly in the self.
A midwife is a friend you who holds your hand during the rough patches, and reminds you to breathe, and gets you to laugh, and holds the high watch. A midwife never loses her cool, she has impeccable faith in your abilities and knows that the hard journey is worth the destination and never lets you forget it. Growing your consciousness is not just about the internal work, it is also about navigating and nurturing and finding your tribe. Because relationships that are healthy, intimate and mutually beneficial are the very ones that cause you to feel connected, confident and possible.
Over my years of coaching and speaking, I have shared over and over the game changer that can come from having a great coach or mentoring relationship. It is invaluable to have a person in your corner who has been there before and knows the short cuts. But it is equally valuable to be that person for others. To take and make the time to help someone else along, to hold their dreams, without getting entangled in them, to witness someone else’s brilliance. This is a view that we tend to rush by, this is a vista that is breathtaking.
A Course In Miracles tells us that giving and receiving are one in the same and we really get to see this in the mentor/mentee relationship. There is a glow that falls over the face of someone who has been helpful. Life has a way of giving back to those that help others. Call it karma, call it whatever you like, but when you invite generosity into one part of your life it seems to work its way into other areas as well.
This type of service is one of the best-kept secrets for stress reduction. Looking outside yourself and taking the focus off of your desires can give the Holy Spirit a hot moment to work on your behalf. The best way to surf the sometimes choppy waters of life, career and the rest of it is to have one hand ahead of you holding to the hand of trusted teacher and one behind you guiding a thirsty student. As we commit to BOTH giving and receiving, we will find balance, brilliance and the benefits of a TRIBE.
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Maureen Muldoon is a Spiritual Vixen, intuitive vision caster, writer, speaker, storyteller and thought leader. She is the spiritual director of SpeakEasy Spiritual Community and creative director of Voice Box. She hosts conversations that inspire individuals and organizations to get on the course with awesomeness. She blogs at ~ MaureenMuldoon.com and Vlogs on YOUTUBE