Looking down at a collection of stones I am mesmerized by their synergy. When I pick one up to examine it closer, it’s doesn’t seem all that spectacular, but in the presence of the other stones, it’s beauty is magnified. That’s the magic of intimacy, community and showing up.
Activating your warrior energy is all about showing up and choosing to be present. As simple as that sounds, it’s not always easy. There are the voices in our heads running a racket. Why show up? Who is going to miss you? What contribution do you really have to make?
In today’s technical climate, community and face-to-face connections are becoming things of the past. We’ve reached a state where all of our questions, concerns and riddles can be solved from the safety of our own bed and a quick search through Google. Who needs community? What do we get for bringing our bodies out into the cold? What’s so important about being intimate, and present?
The truth is nothing happens unless you show up. A friend of mine was asking why she never meets any nice guys. Well, the thing is, I told her, You kind of have to get out there. Nice guys don’t just come knocking on your door while you padding around in your pajamas.
“Sometimes the hardest thing to do is just show up.
Sometimes the best we can do is just show up
And most times the only thing we need to do it just show up.”
~Tweetable from yours truly
Showing up is like keeping an ancient promise to ourselves. When we flake or bail or show up half-heartedly, we actually feel it in our bones.
Why do we do that? Why do we flake and bail? Because being the warrior, being present can lead us to places that make us feel vulnerable. The fear of being seen, the fear of being visible, the fear of having our rough patches smoothed as we awkwardly bump up against each other, can all add up to a deep desire to hibernate. So when we do show up, when we do step up or out, we come armed with our plans and agendas. We come so encumbered to our divine appointments that we block the mystery and miss the miracles.
When I first started teaching A Course In Miracles, I had a well-meaning friend ask me, “What if someone comes to your class and asks you something that you don’t know the answer to?”
Her question haunted me. I had never really considered it. But once the fear was under my skin, it took root and caused me to show up to my classes with a whole arsenal of unnecessary tricks and gadgets. I would bring hand-outs and draw charts and have bits of recordings to listen to, all in the name of proving my worth as a teacher.
One day I had a client who needed me to stay longer than I had planned. I kept looking at the clock, and I realized that I would not have the time before class to make all the charts and copy all the hand-outs and that I was just going to have to show up and surrender to the great mystery of life in action.
When I let go and surrendered, it turned out better than I could have planned. From then on I knew that it was not really me doing all the work anyhow, it was the master teacher within me that was seeking to be expressed. This master teacher dwells within each of us and is activated by our willingness to come naked, open-minded, unencumbered and curious.
The warrior does not teach us to show up with defenses, ready to do battle, weighed down with plans and agendas. The warrior teaches us to just show up! A Course in Miracles tells us that a healed mind doesn’t plan. When we surrender our need to control or deflect or protect, something truly magical happens. We run into the right person, have the perfect conversation, and receive just the tool we need to move forward.
Yes, this type of vulnerability requires faith, and yes, you can inch your way into this type of faith. But if you allow yourself to surrender into the awkward unpolished perfection of life, you might be surprised at how God really does roll out the red carpet for each of us. If you are called to it, God will carry you through it.
Showing up is the catalyst for miracles.
Your ego does not want you to know this, but you are actually very important to the world. Your presence carries a unique light that only you have. Your jokes, your stories, your laughter is the the perfect medicine for someone else’s ears.
There is a light that dwells within you that is such a gift to the rest of us. Have you ever consider that your physical presence may mean a great deal to another person?
As Marianne Williamson says,
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
When you show up, you make us even better. U complete US.
PS The image I used for this post is not just a pile of stones. Look again and see if you can find a person hidden in the stones. If you relate to feeling hidden, stuck, or afraid of showing up visibly in your life, let’s talk. Supporting people in living out loud is what I do.
Maureen Muldoon is a writer, speaker, storyteller and thought leader who helps you go from where you are to where you want to be in business, in love, and life. She blogs at www.communitysanctuary.com. ~ MaureenMuldoon.com and VoiceBoxStoryNight.com